IELTS Cue Card: Speaking Part 3

Speaking Part 3

The number of questions, as well as the answers of the IELTS Speaking Part 3, is quite large and that is why we have divided them into different pages. You can navigate to those pages from the bottom navigation or can directly visit a page from here:

Question set 1: Two-way discussion
Question set 2: Two-way discussion
Question set 3: Two-way discussion
Question set 4: Two-way discussion
Question set 5: Two-way discussion
Question set 6: Two-way discussion
Question set 7: Two-way discussion
Question set 8: Two-way discussion
Question set 9: Two-way discussion
Question set 10: Two-way discussion
Question set 11: Two-way discussion

Question Set 1: Two-way discussion.

 

Status & Ambition:

• What kinds of things give status to people in your country?
Well, education, wealth, money, large house, car, fame, career are some of the things that give status in our country. There are some other aspects of status in my country like luxury gadgets, political power, expensive dresses and publicity.  However, the things I mentioned before are most prominent aspects of status in my country. For instance, people with higher education and knowledge naturally get a status that others can’t have. Similarly, wealth, cars, houses, branded dresses, and many other things are often considered as part of people’s status in many cases.

It is not unlikely that people with fame and popularity also enjoys a different type of status that mass people can’t have. Jobs in important government sectors can also be a symbol of status in many societies and finally political power, though controversial in some cases, is also a status symbol in my country.

• Have things changed since your parents’ time?
In terms of people’s status in a society, things have not changed that much between my father and my generation. The status symbols I mentioned earlier were almost same as they are nowadays. Expensive technological gadgets and new brand names might have been added as part of people’s status symbol; however, those could be classified as the materialistic achievement which was also present in my parent’s era.

• Do you think advertising influences what people buy?
Yes, I think advertisement has a huge impact on people’s purchasing decision. It is quite natural that people would pick a known branded product that purchasing products from brand names they do not know about.

People spend a lot of time in front of their television or computer and they are knowingly and unknowingly being influenced by the advertisements and advertisers. Some advertisements even allure us to purchase products we actually do not need at all.

• What are the important qualities to achieve our ambitions?
Determination and hard work, in my opinion, are two most important qualities to fulfil our ambitions and goals. Luck often plays its tricks but I believe fortune always favours the hard working and strong-minded people to succeed.

Apart from that, proper planning, timely execution, expertise and experience are some other qualities we need to achieve our goals in life.

• Are all ambitions good in life?
I guess every positive ambition that brings happiness, success, prosperity and well-being of others is a good one. However, we are often driven by our selfishness, greed and materialistic achievements and any ambition which is aimed to fulfil our personal greed is a bad one.

In general, ambitions in our life help us to work harder and give meaning in life and that’s why we should have ambitions, positive ambitions I mean.

• What type of ambition young generation in your country has?
That’s a good question. The young generation in our country usually aims for a prosperous career and economic freedom. Their ambitions in life also include being someone famous so that people will know them, being a successful and happy person in later life and having a beautiful and nice life partners. They also want to explore the world and want to see a flourishing country in the future where violence and crime would be a thing of past.

• Would you focus more on achieving your ambition or doing things you love to do?
Personally, my ambition in life is quite realistic and not something we hear in fairy tales only. Being able to do something I love and have passion is not different than my ambition. I want to lead a life that would be surrounded by my family members, relatives, friends and people I care about. Being able to set up my own business or doing a job that I would feel interested in is both my ambition and dream.

Tourism:

• What are some famous tourist spots in your country?
Thank you for the question. Malaysia, the South Asian country is one of the most popular tourist destinations in the world and millions of tourists come every year to visit the places. Malaysia has a wide range of attractive tourist spots for the global visitors. The country two special beaches for both the native and tourist naming – Batu Ferringhi beach and Port Dickinson. The beaches are accessible round the day and visitors crowd in the beach, take photos and make lots of fun. Some of the historical buildings have also been used as popular tourist destinations and some of the notable such places are A Famosa, Sultan Abdul Samad Building, Malacca Christ Church etc.  Besides, the islands of the country are also famous for their breathtaking beauty. There are three islands including Tioman, Pangkor and Langkawi. The islands are always crowded with tourist from home and abroad. Besides, the museums of Malaysia are the other great source of entertainment for the tourists to gather knowledge about the country and its history.

The museums are decorated with the valuable natural and artificial relics of different ages and they represent the then society and culture. If you want to pass a long vacation in the country, you can hire different resorts with all modern facilities and can enjoy your vacation in Malaysia. Besides, shopping is a fun in the country and the three shopping districts will offer you a large number of shopping malls and spaces to get the right thing for you. Besides, the Petronas Twin Towers is the other tourist destination in the country. This is one of the exciting places for the foreign nationals and most of the times they take snapshots of them before the superstructure. Further, there are some theme parks available to entertain all types of travellers. The rides and surrounding environment of the parks are adorable and breathtaking.

• What are the impacts of tourism in your country?
Well, tourism has many things to do with the country. Though the country is economically sound and does not need an external assistance, the tourism has been favouring the state in many ways. Firstly, it is creating employment opportunity for the unemployed and unskilled people ate the tourist spots. The visitors are getting their necessary things from the local product sellers which are a kind of employment for them. If there were no tourist, there would have no chances for the employments. Besides, the tourists are spending inside the country which means they are consuming our products and thus we need to grow more products which help raise the country’s GDP. Moreover, the Malaysian products travel around the globe through the tourists (after they get the products from Malaysia, they expose them in different places) which is a kind of advertisement for us. It helps raising our fame and also the demand of the products rise to some extent. Another matter should be brought under consideration – cleanliness. As tourists come to visit the natural spots and other visiting places, those parts are kept clean which is helpful to protect the environment. Wastes are disposed in specific areas and the cleaners also try their best to remove the wastes which result in a cleaner environment. So, tourism also helps to keep the country clean.

• What are the positive impacts of tourism in your country?
Umm! I think basically we have three notable impacts of tourism for my country. They include the environmental impacts, impacts on the economy and socio-cultural impacts. Each of the impacts plays an important role in the advancement of the country. Earlier, I have said that tourism has some impacts on the economy and have explained how it helps to grow. Tourism helps to grow the local and small entrepreneurship inside the country. It encourages the locals to produce more and more products as per the demands of the tourists. If we consider the socio-cultural impacts, we will found that some of the cultures and events of Malaysia are being celebrated in the other parts of the world. How is it happening? In fact, the tourists who come visiting the state, they take the cultures way back to their home and if that appears too funny or enjoyable for them, they spread that among the surroundings. This is the unique way to spread the Malaysian tradition in the other countries. The quality of the environment including the artificial and natural is kept on a sound state so that it could satisfy the visitors. When the visitors come to an attractive place, they usually are amazed at the very first sight. Environment plays the key role in this case. Thereby, I think all these three aspects help to improve Malaysia and in the future and the rate of improvement will be accelerated as well.

• What are the negative impacts of tourism in your country?
Nothing in the world comes without any negativity and similarly, tourism has some specific negative impacts on Malaysia. But the rates of the negative impacts are almost similar to the positive aspects. You know when the tourists come from different parts of the globe, a large chunk of them are careless to the surrounding environment. As a result, the cause damage to the landscape. Sometimes the tourists make the campfire on the beaches but they do not clean the space when they leave which is unusual. Consequently, the specific land is to bear the negative impacts. Sometimes, traffic congestions occur inside the city which becomes intolerable in certain cases for the natives. The other important aspect is that the price of the local goods becomes too expensive for the locals. Sometimes the needy Malaysian people even cannot bear the expenses of the necessary items as those are sold to the tourists only at a higher price. Housing in the tourist areas also become expensive for the natives and everything is dealt on a commercial basis. At times, in the beach areas, employment becomes seasonal. The employees are even not paid a higher remuneration as well comparing the other small jobs. Besides the government has to make infrastructures for the tourists and visitors and consequently the tax on the common people get a hike. Sometimes there are few misunderstandings with the tourists which create an awkward situation in the spots. So, I think these are the detrimental impacts of tourism but should not be considered as harmful for the country. Proper initiatives and guidelines will remove the troubles, I think.

• What do you think are the reasons people visit new places?
Ummm! There are several reasons for people’s visiting different places. I think you cannot think about the travelling benefits. Mostly they want to know the unknown and see the unseen. Travelling is one of the greatest things to enjoy in life. There are certain seasons for travelling like summer or winter and people set out to have a trip around the world. When people go from one place to another, they experience a good number of things which were unseen to them before the trip. Travelling in new places is highly enjoyable and provides many things to the travellers. When people explore the places, they earn a priceless knowledge. They know the real world and experience the real things which were on their books. Gradually, our knowledge level increases than the ordinary people. People enjoy the places and explore different cultures where they go. Sometimes they try adopting the cultures in their own lives. But the most important thing is that travelling removes stress from the life. When you will go for travelling abroad, all your stress and mental anxiety will go down to level zero. As a result, you will be energised to start your responsibilities when you are back. Memory is an important thing that people have from their travelling. Memories never die. And the memories of travelling help to remember the joyful day when you are passing a gloomy climate in your real life.

• What can you tell about the future of tourism industry in your country?
Smart question! Well, Malaysia is blooming every day. Tourism has become one of the important sectors of the country and based on the sector, different initiatives have been adopted in the country and some are in the pipeline. In future, if the ideas are implemented, the tourism will be cheaper and easier for both the local and foreign nationals. Most of the cases, accommodation in expensive resorts or hotels become troublesome for the tourists and they also cannot afford the prices of the knickknacks. It the Malaysian government takes proper initiatives to solve the issues, more and more travellers will make a stop in the country. The beaches are beautiful indeed but the surrounding regions need renovations. It should be done by the private initiatives and the number of affordable resorts and hotels should be increased. I think the government will take measures over the issue. Besides, it will improve the local productions and more employment will be created. In fact, it is the tourists who promote the local products in the international arena and they should be taken care of properly.



Technology and Life:

• What are the differences between the life in the past and at the present?
Well, this is a grave question indeed. Life is a continuously changing process and changes every now and then. A large number of changes have taken place in the current days comparing the past. We are living in the advanced world and everything has been mechanised here. But earlier, people were not so much robotic and had enough time to pass with the near and dear ones. The most important inventions in this age are the computers and the internet which I think have revolutionised the entire system. Travelling was too difficult in the past days and it took long times to reach from one place to another. Vehicles were not so common and people used to travel on horses or carts and sometimes they walked long distances to reach the destination. But in the current days, most of the people have their own cars and mass transportations system is also popular and there are different types of modes as well. If we consider the social issues and families, there are also notable changes. Earlier, the numbers of extended families were prevalent but now they have been almost extinct from the society. Nuclear families are on the rise and most of the parents are living alone.

Besides, the cultural changes are substantial and the East is trying to follow the West and also adopting their lifestyles. As a result, there are some cultural conflicts among the people. Besides, the life in the current days is enjoying more modern benefits regarding medical facilities. The number of deaths caused by diseases has been reduced to a great extent comparing to the past days. The use of electronic gadgets and equipment is also on the rise in the current days. Besides, the use of cellular phones (mobile phones) and television is also upping now which was not as much usual as it is in the current days. The life in the modern days is made comfortable with the use of technology which was not available in the past days.

• What are the impacts of electrical equipment on human’s life in the past ten years?
Umm! A good number of electrical equipment and tools have been invented and those are influencing human lives. The most notable electronic equipment are television, mobile phone, refrigerator, electric oven, electric iron, computer, cassette players etc. All those have dominated the human lives and still they are dominating. The use of mobile phones is on the increase for several reasons and people cannot do without it for a single moment. It helps greatly to communicate around the world. The computer is the other electronic equipment and has lifted the civilisation to another extent. The use of computers is found everywhere. The impacts are great and people also cannot do without it for a single day. It is used in almost all types of work from designing a rocket to designing a piece of a needle. The equipment has influenced us greatly. Today, if we want to play a song, now we can play that on our computer or on our mobile phones but in the past days, the songs were played on cassette players. Both the equipment belong to the electronic category and have benefitted us in many ways. Further, we need to carry our mobile phones always with us for different purposes and it is a must for us in the current days. When there were no mobile phones, people communicated with each other (though that consumed more time) but now they can do it easily through the mobile phones. In fact, different electrical equipment have made life easier and comfortable for us. The importance and benefits done by those tools and equipment cannot be described in words.

• What are the advantages and disadvantages of computer and internet?
Well, I think you are well informed that there is nothing in the world with negative impacts. Everything has its blessings and demerits and similarly computers and the internet are not exceptions. A computer with the internet connection is of great help to people. It helps them to connect with the world. People could get to know about the happenings in the surrounding through reading news and articles on newspapers on the internet. Besides, it also helps them to communicate individually through the social networking websites. Moreover, they could also communicate with the people or relatives living on the farthest corner of the world. Moreover, the computers and the internet are shaping the world. Newer types of computers and speedy internet connections are being developed. The use of computer and internet is influencing almost all the spheres of life in the present days and we cannot do without it for a day. But there are some negative impacts as well. Sometimes the youths and the kids spend most of the time of a day with a computer and the internet which is highly harmful to them. They play virtual video games on computers using the internet and forgetting to play on the playground. Sometimes, the computer and the internet are used to spread rumours and misinformation among a targeted group and accordingly they try to get some benefits. Additionally, computers and the internet are also used for scamming and sometimes the people with less knowledge of the issue are made fool. For instance, you do have much knowledge about the computer and the internet and when you get a message on your e-mail that you won a lottery worth billions and ask you to send your private information, there are chances that you are being robbed. So, such issues should be avoided for your own benefits. Some other detrimental impacts of computer and internet are that the young people get addicted to the device and technology and waste more times. They lose concentrations on their studies and instead use a computer with the internet around the day to chat with their buddies and waste their hours in unproductive works. Such issues also should be taken care of by the parents.

• Do you have a mobile phone? What are its advantages?
Yes, I do have a mobile phone. It’s a Samsung phone with the name - Galaxy A5. The phone has different attractive features and functions with a long lasting charging capacity. Well, the mobile phones have a good number of advantages. The first and the top most important advantage is that you could be reached through the phone at any time of the day. It helps to communicate easily and effectively. When it was the age of cable telephones, people could not be reached immediately when they were needed. Making long distance calls was also troublesome. Even if any messages were delivered, they recipients received those messages when the events or hours were over. So, actually, that cable phone was of no use in the time of necessity. But the mobile phones have removed all such barriers. Since people carry the phones always with them for its size and shape, they could be reached at any time. The mobile phones have been developed with programmes and functions comparing the first generation a mobile phones. In the early days of mobile phones, they came with fewer features and facilities. Only phone calls were made using the phones. But currently the mobile phones come with a wide range of modern features including cameras, music players, calendars, alarms, custom made ringtones, saving numbers and address of people to a certain limit, improved and fast internet browsing and more other features. Besides, you can use your mobile phones for several purposes as well. Gaming on mobile phone is a great thing and a great gaming platform has been made based on the mobile phones. Thereby, people are turning to have mobile phones than the phones with cables. Where there are no internet connections, you can use the phone as a modem to get in touch with your virtual world.

• What role does technological development play in people’s life?
Uhh, it’s a great thing to describe the technological development in the life of people. I think you are well informed about technology. It, in fact, began form an ancient age with the invention of the wheel and since then it is being continued. The importance of technology cannot be described in words. It has elevated the human lives in many ways. Earlier, people used to send letters to their near and dear ones or relatives living abroad. But sometimes the letters went missing for different reasons. They recipients did not get the messages in due time or sometimes they did not get at all. But with the technological advancement people now can send letters through e-mails. They also can send text messages to their near and dear ones. Besides, sending the e-mails or text messages deliver reports that those have been sent to the recipients. So, it is evident that technology has improved the condition of the people regarding communication. If we consider the issue of our private life, technology is also present here with its blessing. We cannot do the electrical tools and appliances which are the gift of technology. We cannot pass a day without a refrigerator, television, telephone or electricity which is blessings of the modern technology. In brief, technology has grabbed the life (in positive terms) of people across the world.

• How will technology develop in the future?
Well, it is difficult for me to predict the future developments of technology as the changes are vast. But I believe that technology will be developed in such an effective manner that will help reducing human efforts and make life more comfortable and easier. Currently, we are commanding or instructing the tools or equipment to perform their respective acts. Take a practical example – we are pressing remote control buttons to change television channels or raise or reduce the television volume level. But someday in future it may happen that we do not need to press the button, simply our thoughts will do the remaining. Besides, the emergence of artificial intelligence is another issue, I think. When the artificial intelligence will emerge, the robots or cyborgs will perform the unbelievable tasks. Don’t you watch the sci-fi movies? Yes, the changes will be like so. We will see flying cars and many other incredible things in future if the technological changes take place in the right manner.

Education & Teaching:

• What kind of person makes a good teacher?
Well, I think a person with the passion for teaching, good interpersonal skill, talent and some teaching experience could become a good teacher. From my experience, I can say that academic background of a teacher has a relationship with his teaching style but this is not always the case. In my academic life, I have found many teachers who had a comparatively less educational qualification and yet they were great teachers and that’s because they had a passion for teaching. Their communication skills with students were excellent and they were good listeners. They let students raise questions to understand their level and then tried in every way possible to satisfactorily answer our questions. That’s another important aspect of becoming a really good teacher.

• Why do people choose to become teachers?
Ahh, in most of the cases people want to become teachers from their passion for the teaching profession. In some cases, they become teachers only because they could not find a better profession that that. However, I believe those type of people should never come in the teaching profession. Apart from passion and career many others choose to become teachers to help the society and to contribute towards building an enlightened society. Research facilities, respect in society, being able to continue learning curves are three major other reasons many people come in teaching profession in my opinion.

• Do you think education will change in the future? How?
Definitely! The education is an ever evolving and changing process. Though the core objective of education will always remain the same - to educate a person and to make a better and enlighten person for the society, the process will change.

We have already witnessed a radical change in the way education process works these days than in the past. In future the education would become more technology dependent and students will have many various sources for learning than only attending classes or reading books. Teachers will also become dependent on technological advancements to better educate students while distance learning would become very common among adult students.

The courses pupil will study will become more specific and more practical courses will be introduced in the future than we have now, I assume.


• How does technology affect education?
Technology makes the face-to-face communication between students and teachers less necessary and helps students learn from various sources. It also makes the distance learning and e-learning possible and that would help many people get involved in higher education than today.

Besides, technological advancements help teachers prepare and present their lessons in a better fashion and make it possible to digitally evaluate students’ performance.

The negative effects the technological advancements bring in education sector include a scope of plagiarism, less interaction between students and teachers and spending too much time on activities that are not educative. However, this is not the fault of the technology itself, rather how we use it.

Education & Skill:

• What skill do you think the university has provided for your job?
Thank you for the question. Well, a university is a place where we develop the major skills that cannot be developed in the other levels of education. Usually, we learn a good deal of real life skills and develop expertise on those skills. The most important skills, I think, would be intellectual skills, communication skills, organisational skills, interpersonal skills, language skills, computer literacy, professional and practical skills and more others. When a student enters into a university, s/ he develops an extraordinary sense of consciousness and consequently their intellectual level rise. With the gradual increase of the intellect, they learn to think differently and grow their senses of consciousness. As a result, they could take the right decisions promptly than the ordinary people.

They also learn to communicate effectively from the university. You know, in universities, you are to communicate with a large number of people including your mates, university teachers and even the university staffs. If they fail to communicate effectively with the surroundings, they would not be able to get their things done. So, for their own sake, they need to learn the skill which they could apply in their future. Besides, language plays an important role in their university life as there is a wide number of student come get admitted. To communicate with all of them, a student needs to master several languages. Sometimes, the students are to complete different assignments and reports and they need to use computers for the purposes. So, their computer skills get developed in the university. Most of the times the university students need to pass their leisure hours with the other students and share their feelings, emotions and thoughts. Such activities improve their inter-personal skill and later they could apply the skill in their real life situations. In brief, a university student learns all the skill that is necessary to make them successful in their professional life.

• What skills can you learn in school?
Well, a school is a place to learn some basic skills of life that will be useful in the coming phases. A school is considered as the key institution to form the foundation of an individual. It teaches us the basic skills like time management, forming the reading habit, problem-solving, critical thinking, adaptability, goals oriented, concentration, note taking, reviewing studies etc. With the growth of time management, the student learns to maintain time effectively. S/ he will never be late to attend the class and later the habit will allow them to attend any appointments in due time. Reading habit is one of the most adorable habits and it develops from the early childhood when the kids go to school. When they are prescribed different books, they read them carefully. Gradually they start reading extracurricular books and thus form the habit that lasts lifelong. In schools, the teachers set goals for them and the students are to reach the goals or complete them with due time. Consequently, they become goal oriented. Most of the time the students are to take short notes in class from the lectures. Short note taking is a good habit for them and could be applied in the later stages in their life. The school hours are sometimes different. You know, the school hours change considering the seasons and the students are to adapt with the odd schooling hours. When they are assigned to different assignments and home works, they need to think critically. They are to bring the solutions and they also need to present the thoughts before their class and teachers. Their critical thoughts get sharpened. Besides, before the exams, they are to review the studies they have done so far and the habit continues till their adulthood. It helps them greatly to review all of their activities.

• What do you think of the role of family for children to learn skills?
Uhh! The family is the first institution and been serving various aspects of human life since time immemorial. Family teaches the kids about different about different roles and mostly socialising them. Socializing is a great thing to consider in human lives. If you do not know the rules and are unaware of your responsibilities while living in a society, undoubtedly you are to experience some negative consequence. When you are unaware of your responsibilities in the community you are living with, it would be difficult for you to continue the living. Interestingly, the skills are taught in families. For instance, you are walking through a road and someone was badly injured there. You need to take the injured person to the hospital and inform the family members of the injured. This is a socialising skill. Have you learnt it in schools? The answer is negative. Such issues like helping the people usually taught in families. The family also teaches to be with the people in their need and behave well. I think you are familiar with the saying that my family is my strength and my weakness. If you learn something good, your family would be attributed to that quality and if you learn something negative, similarly your family would be pointed or blamed to teach you the negative quality. Thus, a family plays important role in the life of the people. In fact, people learn the first lessons from the families and those help them decide to be good or bad humans.

• What is the most popular skill that people want to learn?
Umm! There are a great number of skills that people want to learn and master. Each of the skills is important and popular and is unnecessary for everyone. But at times it is impossible to master all the skills at a time and thus we need to hire experts on the specific matters to solve the problems arisen for our lack of skills. Usually, people want to master skills like writing ability, well-groomed conversation, critically thinking, maintaining professional and private life, dealing and saving money, adjustment with technology, abiding government rules and carrying out the civic responsibilities, repairing the damaged things like home appliances or vehicles, cooking etc. Each of the skills is popular among the people around the world.

To me, it appears that one cannot master all the skills together and hence the need of different professionals emerged. Humans, in fact, cannot master all the necessary skills together for some specific reasons and the first one is physical limitations. Each of the people has some sort of physical limitations and as a result, they cannot perform all the tasks or cannot master them. I think you also have some sort of deficiencies in your life and for that, you need to take others help who are experts on the issue. For instance, both you and I are unaware about medicine as we are not doctors. We might have some usual ideas overtaking medicines and we may also prescribe the same medications to others if they are suffering as we did. But the suggestions for medications will not make us doctors, right? Further, the doctor might need a painting for his spacious living room and he needs to buy that from a professional painter because he cannot paint pictures. This is the fact. Skills count. I think the issue is clear why one cannot gain all the skills though they want to have them all together.

• What kind of school would you send your children to? Why?
It’s an important question for me. I want my kids to be educated, I mean it. They should be educated. I should admit them in a school where they would be able to learn real life skills so that they could use the skills in their practical life. Most of the schools and educational institutions nowadays inspire the students to memorise instead of teaching them the right things. They emphasise on learning than realising. I think learning does not stay for a longer while if you realise something from your heart, it would last for the lifetime. I have several examples to show favouring my statement. For instance, now if I ask you to tell me what you have memorised in your seventh grade, of course, you won’t be able to tell me instantly. Or you may have also forgotten. It’s natural. But if I ask you to tell something that you can remember from your childhood, certainly you can tell me a good number of things because those events are ever reminding as you observed those not memorised.

So, I would prefer schools where the teaching method will be different from the ordinary schools. I want my kids to gain the right real-life knowledge and skills and they should also be able to implement those in the right manner. But the numbers of such schools are limited and in some cases, those schools exist on black and white only. But I am hopeful that someday I certainly will get such a school and if I could achieve the ability, I would launch such a school where the kids will get the real life training instead of bookish knowledge. In fact, I have started dreaming of establishing such a school and I hope someday the dream will come true. If I cannot admit my kids to such a school, I will try so that the others could get the facility of the standard education in the right way.

• What kinds of skills have your parents learned?
Ahh! When my parents were younger, they had several skills. My dad is the man who could impress the others with his words. You will turn his fan after five minutes of talking. When he met someone, he always behaved nicely with him or her and as a result, everyone turned into his friends. He never made any rude remarks to anyone in his lifetime. In return, he has gained love and affection from others. Besides, he was skilled in sports. He had participated in different sports competitions in his school, college and universities. He won prizes for his performances. On the other side, my mom is the greatest woman with a lucid voice. She loves to sing. She also can cook delicious foods and most of the time she does not get the foods in her share as everyone grabs more than their own share. Besides, she also has a great ability to socialise with the surroundings. She is popular and liked by everyone in my family. In many family gatherings, she is the most awaited person for her charming personality. She can please her audience with sweet songs and sometimes she cooks delicious foods for the gatherings which are the other attraction for the members present. Now, I am happy to be their kid and highly admire them before everyone I meet.

• What are the advantages and disadvantages of school education and family education?
Well, school is a formal institution while the family is a non-formal education. The school usually teaches some of the selected elements to live in the society. This is a formal way to get educated and pass different courses with or without distinctions. Generally, in schools, some preset subjects or courses are taught to the students of different levels. Accordingly, they appear on examinations, pass the courses and get their formal recognition like certificates. But the matter is a bit different in the case of a family. The issues taught in families are priceless. It is the first institution for an individual. A family teaches a man to deal with the world. When kids are born, they usually get familiar with the family members gradually and start following their activities. They try to imitate the actions and behaviours of the other family members. Consequently, they start learning about the world and life. They become socialised and start living into a decent society. Education in schools makes them literate and sensible while the education in family forms the base of the individual. Both of them have some detrimental impacts as well. Sometimes people may get derailed for their families or in some cases people may not pass the desired levels. But we have to acknowledge the facts that two of the systems are helpful to us in many aspects comparing the negative impacts. Thereby, I think both the institutional and family education is necessary for humans to live on the planet.


Making Friends:

• What are the differences between adults and children in terms of making friends? 
 Well, this is a great question for me. Friendship is a divine thing and it should be understood and appreciated. Mere giving and receiving benefits is not friendship. The meaning is entirely different from the usual conceptions we pose over it. Friends are not always made and in fact it begins in the childhood and lasts long and even till death in some cases. But if we consider the aspect in terms of making friends, we will find there are some basic difference between the adults and the children who want to make new friends. When children are in the situations to make new friends, they usually think of certain issues. Firstly they think of benefits (it should not be considered as negative aspect rather it’s natural). Being immature, they cannot think of the realities of life and the value of relationships and thus prefer getting the current benefits. But on the other side, when an adult makes a friend, s/ he thinks about different issues and aspects and also cares less about the benefits. When the children make friends, they try to build the relationship with the other children like their classmates or the kids whom they play with. As a result, their circle of friends becomes limited. But the adults do not make such limited friendships and the range of friends includes people of all classes in the society. The relations are formed with mutual respects and understandings among them and tend to be continued for longer. Interestingly, the kids’ friendships do not last for such longer periods. When they do not find any interest and cannot agree on any issues, they quarrel and split up, and if the quarrels happen between girl children, they stop even showing the least respect to each other. However, such issues are not found in the case of adult friendship.

• Can adults make friends with children?
Umm! Yes. Sometimes the adults can make friendship with children in some specific cases. But this is a difficult task indeed. Generally, the mental faculty of kid and an adult is not similar. They are habituated to think different. The meaning of life is also diversified to them. A kid may be happy with a piece of candy while an adult will not be happy even if the entire world is on his or her hand. Satisfaction levels are different between them. So, making friendship is not easier with the kids as it is thought so. The children usually do not understand or need to understand the realities as their mental faculty is not matured to think over the issues. So, it is a bit difficult to adjust with them during the friendship. Besides, they are unstable in nature and hardly can concentrate on any specific issues. So, the adults need to make the first moves to build a friendship with the children. Though it’s difficult, it’s possible. When the adults will take first move to befriend with the kids, they in return will get some reactions from the kids which will determine if the kids will agree in the relationship or not. If the reaction is positive, then the adults have to move forward with a friendly approach. The most important thing about the kids is that they need someone to listen to their needs and allegations. Usually, adults ignore them and do not want to pay heed to their demands which create a gap between the adults and kids.

So, the first attempt should be made from the adults and they also need to be careful about the approaches. Once the adults are adjusted with the way of thinking and attitudes of the kids, they will never mind to count them as friends. Sometimes such friendships are stronger than making friendships with adults.

• What do you think are the most important factors when making friends?
Ummm! It is a critical issue to ponder. There are a great number of factors to consider any individual as a friend. But the first and most important factor to me appears that the counterpart should be sincere in the friendship. In my private life, I have found many friends who were not friends actually. They did not have respect for the relationship and tried always to gain. But sometimes you are to sacrifice over some facts to continue the relationship. When you are to provide services to your friends all of the times whenever you meet and do not even get a – Thank You’ in return, it is truly disappointing. It demoralises the inspiration to continue with the friendship. Thereby, I think both the parties should be careful and sacrificing to the relation.

Besides, humane qualities are the other things that should be possessed by the individual you are going to make friends. It is imperative to learn about the private habits and attitudes to people, to animals, reaction to the surrounding events etc. All the facts should be checked before (if possible) when you are going to make friendship with a stranger. It is important or you to be aware of both the sides of the coin before you start dealing with it. I have also seen some people to regret as they could not select good friends and finally they get deceived from the people. So, if the people you are meeting regularly and gossiping with do not come to be any of the help in your needs, you need to carefully avoid them. There is a saying that good people bring good lucks and accordingly if you are not with a good company, of course, you are to experience bad lucks in your life. Besides, honesty is another issue that needs to be considered in this aspect. Thereby, make sure your company is clean of all the negative virtues.

• What are the possible factors that cause the break-up of friendship?
Well, there are several factors to break-up a friendship. The first thing is mistrust. Someone trusts you with something valuable (it might be information or any valuable stuff) and you are violating the trust. You are deceiving the friend and taking benefits of his or her kindness or generosity. This is a primary cause of breaking-up a friendship. Besides, you have more expectations from your friends but you are not getting the desired feedback from them. It also causes for the break-up. At times, there are some misunderstandings between or among the friends which result in the break-up. Mostly the break-ups take place when one of the friends does not want to leave his or her benefits. As a result, misunderstandings happen which take them to the break-up. Besides, when the detrimental aspects of a friend are revealed, the surrounding friends break-up the friendship with the person lest they become affected with the negative issues. Thereby, I think these are the key causes of the breaking-up. But another issue is that all of us should be careful about maintaining the relationships and sacrifice at the possible cases so that the friendship sustains for a long time.

• Why is it difficult for adults to make friends?
Oh! Yes, it is sometimes difficult for the adults to make friends. But in most of the cases, they are seen maintaining the old relations that have been being carried out since their childhood. As a result, in their adulthood, they cannot make more friends as they did in their childhood. Besides, when they turn adults, they become too choosy to get friends. They always try to find out the pros and cons of the friends and consequently discard the people who were on the list. Besides, they, in fact, cannot adjust mentally with the other people who want to be friends if they are from different class or group. Unless the people on the ‘to be friends’ list are formerly familiar, they cannot accept the people from heart. It happens as they have more experiences in their life. They have undergone the detrimental impacts of taking the wrong decisions while choosing friends. Sometimes they have been cheated with the dear friends or mates. Often they have been refused to get help in their needs though they have helped greatly and similar many other stories. So, they actually do not want to make friendship with the unknown people rather nurture the old relationships. Usually, the adults’ state of mind is always sharper and they can identify the wrongs immediately when they meet someone new. So, they want to keep themselves away from the troubles and hassles by making friendship with strangers.

• What will the friendship become like when getting old?
Well, with the advancement of time, people will turn old. By the same time, the friendships will become stronger and better than ever. Trust is the key thing that helps make the relations stronger and it comes with the advancement of time. When people will turn old, they will prefer to be nostalgic and this is quite natural. When people become old and particularly in their post retirement age, they will have nothing important to do like attending office in time or to do anything urgent. They will have plenty of time to spend without doing anything at all. When people will grow older and matured than the current days, they will try to recollect the past days in different forums. Often they will discuss the past happenings and that will turn them nostalgic. To me, it appears that when people will grow old, they will try to remember the past days for several reasons and also will regret as for why they did or did not the thing. This will be the only way for them to pass their leisure hours. Besides, when people will be getting older, they will have no new friends. They will pass their moments with the old people and old schools. But one thing will be prevalent – the understanding among them. It is the base of the bonding among them.

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